Day 6: No whining!

Practice makes perfect. If you practice complaining, focusing on the negative and wallowing in self-pity, you will become very, very good at being very, very unhappy – and pretty miserable to be around, too. The more you think a particular thought, the more energy your body put towards strengthening that particular set of connections in your brain. It’s hard to NOT complain, and there is a difference between whining and asking for something specific or relaying information. Try to catch yourself complaining and reframe it: make it a specific request, for example, or refocus on something positive.

A dear friend describes his approach to this: “Ron” died of a terrible disease very young. When something comes up I want to complain about now – years later – I stop and think, hmmm, how would Ron feel about being able to complain about that right now?

If that approach works for you, please borrow it!

Dr. Lori Puterbaugh

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