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An Alcohol Dilemma

Alcohol can be a touchy subject. Addictions, generally, are frequently considered to be only something other addicts, including those in recovery, can help with.  Someone like me, who never drank regularly and now, since surgery a few years ago that included a bad anesthesia reaction, can’t drink any alcohol except, oddly, 3 or 4 ounces of Guinness on a couple of holidays each year, is automatically considered ineligible to be helpful. Despite my ineligible status, in a previous post, I included the life lesson that, for many, alcohol is not a friend.

This assertion flies in the face of much research, perhaps most famously Blue Zones data, which includes moderate alcohol use as a generally positive factor for long life. On the other hand, avoiding alcohol is well-supported by substantial research in the medical field.  Shake or stir in my non-drinker status and, well, it seems like I am a fun-killing fuddy-duddy looking for an excuse to ruin my clients’ good time.

What are the benefits of alcohol? Much research has focused in particular on resveratrol and relaxation.  There ways to get antioxidants and relaxation that don’t carry the risks of cancer, liver and brain damage, and some of the regrettable behaviors that alcohol can carry along. This might be a worthwhile topic of discussion with your healthcare provider. Eating grapes, prayer and meditation, physical activity and laughing might hit all the right keys on this.

If you are misusing alcohol – relying on it to “unwind” after the day, to “help you sleep” (it doesn’t, actually), or to get through social situations (there are ways to deal with social anxiety that don’t interfere with functioning) – please seek help. Other signs your relationship with alcohol is unhealthy? Using more than the recommended amount – 1 serving max per day for females, 2 for males. Feeling anxious if you run out, or worrying you will run out. If you worried more about stocking up with booze than water, batteries and nonperishable food for the past two hurricanes, that’s a bad sign, too. Any binge drinking is a danger sign. Binge drinking raises your blood alcohol to .08 in two hours or less, usually four or five single drinks. Any changes in your functioning at home, work, or socially are likewise danger signs. Pretending that these signs don’t apply to you is itself a sign.

Where to go for help?  Go to an AA meeting. Call a therapist. Call 866-210-1303, or 211, or another helpline. See your physician. Tell someone you trust you’re ready to make a change. Just take that first bold step towards help. There are good people eager to help you change the course of your life for the better, preferably before it becomes unmanageable.  

(Un)Social Drinking

4th in a series: I could tell you but you’re not going to like it: Social Drinking often isn’t.

Yet again, I am stepping into the fray to offer the kind of information that can be helpful but feel quite unwelcome. In this case, it’s the raw fact that, for many people, Social Drinking…isn’t.

Social drinking is one of the terms for the use of alcoholic beverages in disciplined moderation, with others: the glass of wine at dinner, the single drink at happy hour.  It means the person is not an alcoholic, and everything’s under control…but as the term is used, perhaps not.  The American Psychiatric Association has established a low bar to meet the criteria for mild Alcohol Use Disorder: these are two of the many criteria, and perhaps these two will resonate with some social drinkers:

“Alcohol is often taken in larger amounts or over a longer period than was intended” and

“Continued alcohol use despite persistent or recurrent social or interpersonal problems caused by or exacerbated by the effects of alcohol.”

In other words, if someone often drinks three glasses of wine when they meant to have just one, or plans to have “a drink” with a friend that turns into a three-hour hangout with multiple drinks, that is a marker of a potential problem. If someone uses alcohol, and then becomes argumentative with friends and/or family, or zones out in front of the television and, yet again, neglects chores or short-changes the dog’s evening walk, the so-called social drinking isn’t just social drinking. Stir in failing to get up on time for work due to a hangover, or having the alcohol cause headaches, belly aches, acid reflux or blood sugar issues, and there is a storm coming.

So, perhaps, unless your physician advises otherwise, you might do a bit of an experiment if you are a social drinker. The experiment is, no alcohol for a month; six weeks would be better. Fighting a habit takes time. Then see what happens.  If you discuss alcohol with your physician, please be honest: the health professionals’ unofficial guideline when people tell us about alcohol use is, double it, or perhaps even triple what the person tells you.

Evening alcohol use disrupts sleep; people may fall asleep more quickly but will often have sleep problems a few hours into the night.  Alcohol impacts the brain in a host of ways: it impairs balance and spatial judgment, slows physical reaction time, weakens impulse control, and interferes with cognitive functioning. It also interacts dangerously with a host of common medications, including but not limited to medications for pain, anxiety, depression, OCD, ADHD, allergies, and more; if you are on any medications, over the counter or prescription, check with your pharmacist about using alcohol with these medications.  Mixing alcohol and medication can be deadly. Perhaps during your alcohol-free weeks, you will find yourself more motivated to get up and get that morning walk or workout in; perhaps you will have fewer unproductive arguments with the people you love. At that point, it may seem that social drinking may not be social, after all.