It’s about 2/3 of the way through the spring term, so it’s time again for my intro psychology students to learn about the various personality disorders, as defined by the American Psychiatric Association. One interesting one – and not necessarily in a good way – is Histrionic Personality Disorder (HPD).

Traditionally, HPD was estimated to occur in perhaps 2-3% of the population. You know these folks; you’ve known them all your life. They’re exciting, intense, and fun; the life of the party, the center of attention…and they can’t turn it “off” when appropriate. It’s the “friend” who wears a very well-fitted white dress to your wedding; the family member who always has to make it “about them,” when it’s very, very much about someone else; the middle-aged parent who is trying to compete with a teenaged child to the point of embarrassment (for the child, that is). They lack empathy for anyone but themselves, but can emote with the best of them. Recent studies indicate that incidence of HPD is exploding – with some estimates as high as 27% of the young adult (under 35) population now meeting criteria for the psychiatric diagnosis. It’s thought that the two-generation long emphasis on having high self-esteem absent any achievement of good character or performance might be involved, as well as the current culture that elevates attention (any attention) as better than just chugging along, living your life happily with the people you love.

Which of our grandparents would ever, in million years, have imagined everyday people talking about how many “followers” they have, as if they were Jesus?

Like almost all psychiatric diagnoses, HPD is defined by a checklist; meet enough criteria according to the clinician holding the checklist, and you’ve earned the label. Of course, someone with HPD isn’t coming for therapy for help with HPD. Others may come for help with them, or it may become apparent within the context of counseling for some other issue: relationships, work conflicts, etc.   It’s sad, really, that it can be so difficult to realize one needs help, because at the root of this is a small child, still jumping up and down crying out, “Mommy! Watch this! Mommy – look at me!” and that small child in the unconscious just doesn’t realize that all the jumping up and down cannot make them feel “seen,” and they need to find other ways – more adult, meaningful ways – to feel connected and recognized. After all, everyone wants to be seen by eyes that love them; didn’t the film Avatar touch on that well, where the most intimate thing people could say to another living being was, “I see you”?

Like some of the other personality disorders, particularly Antisocial Personality Disorder, Borderline Personality Disorder, and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, the person with Histrionic Personality Disorder will seem fine…in fact, better than fine. All four can be very charming, interesting, and fun. They can seem special and their attention can make the next victim caught in their vortex feel special until all heck breaks loose.

Be compassionate but beware. No matter how wonderful, loving and patient you are, healing the wounded heart under HPD is not a one-man or one-woman task.

Dr. Lori Puterbaugh

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